North Pole, South Pole

North Pole, South Pole; that’s how apart men and chivalry are nowadays. Where did all the chivalrous men go? Mars?! Or maybe they are a thing of the past. This is no attempt to generalise all men, because rare as it seems, they are some chivalrous men on planet earth itself. Every girl has the “likelihood” of meeting some chivalrous men along the way.

It’s kind of sad to put it as likelihood and not certainly. But that’s just stating the current state of affairs. Just as women are programmed to be kind in the tender, maternal way, guys were programmed to be kind in a thoughtful, just, caring and considerate manner. It is strange that men were and men aren’t. Can’t really ascertain the reasons for such a behaviour pattern in men these days. They are crude and coarse.

  Maybe reading a few classics, will work as guideline for adopting mannerisms. Or maybe there should have been chivalry classes for boys, instead of moral science classes in school. (The code of chivalry has to get to men somehow.) No man needs to hold the door of the car, for a woman, that’s asking for too much. But he can let a woman enter the elevator or walk through the door first. What’s the hurry anyway? 

For those who say, “Chivalry is dead, ladies you killed it.” How could that possibly be? Women were talking about equality all along, how did the message get out wrong, asking men all around to be rude. Being treated equally doesn’t imply to being treated rudely. I don’t remember any girl being rude or impolite to a guy.

Maybe the absence of a girl sibling causes men to be insensitive towards women. But at times it equally surprising how guys with no sister siblings are chivalrous and gentlemanly. So yeah, it is a rare virtue to find. It leads you to wonder if chivalry is dead already and just when you thought its dead, comes along a chivalrous courteous man:)

There is no harm in a guy being polite, well-mannered, considerate, courteous, gentlemanly, thoughtful, fair and kind. That’s just, in how many ways a man can be chivalrous. And these are good qualities to possess. Why do men shun them?

Gracious good manners and gallantry are a way to any woman’s heart, just as good food is the way to a man’s heart. Women dig chivalry. Period!

OSHO, ever so Inspiring!!

 Disclaimer: This is not what you think it is.

This is not about OSHO aka Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, rather about a friend OSHO aka Amit Patel. To start with he is a Patel but not a gujju!! (he’s got none of those flashy gujju clothes that gujju guys wear, rather he’s got an evidently cool dressing sense.) Amit, the unassuming guy, who's rather striking. He’s nicknamed Osho; for we were in the land of Osho’s ashram and the name suited the spirituality thats bundled into him.

He’s the one of the coolest people you’d have met. Its his most natural trait. Someone who inspires you to enjoy the splendor of life in its simplicity.  He doesn’t partake in any nonsense; neither receiving nor initiating any from his end. He prompts you to look beyond petty issues. He'll always tell you to overlook the trivial. Simplicity is his forte.

One of the people who never gave into drinking or smoking inspite of the company he kept. He finds no pleasure or solace in these things and believes in eating only ghaas phus. Healthy eating and simple living, is his disclosure.

Having known Osho for so long, I wont be surprised if one day, he packs his bags and wanders off into wilderness searching for the meaning of life, akin to Christopher McCandless from the movie 'Into the Wild'. McCandless, a 22 years old youth, who gave up his urban upbringing and wandered off into Alaska in the early 1990s, only to die of starvation and poisonous hemp seeds. Into the Wild, not only tells about the sad fate of McCandless but also about the troubles and joys of life and lessons that are bound to have a remarkable impact. 

However unlike McCandless, Osho is not rebellious against worldly ties and  functions, only that he believes it’s a vicious circle. He’s got his own views and is not hell bent on imposing them on anyone around him. (well, you’ll appreciate them anyway, and maybe feel overwhelmed by them!) 

The analogy between 'Into the Wild' and Osho, is that they are both bundled with life lessons that are set to always inspire one.

P.S: Into the Wild is based on a true story and the best selling book by Jon Krakauer.